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The position of bridegroom and their parents.

by Agung Ngabei – IMKGroup

I’ve encountered many questions regarding this during wedding day, whether during morning/marriage contract ceremony, blessings ceremony even on the wedding reception itself.

On that note, I would like to explain these positions from a wedding organizer’s perspective. This is due to the positions used as general reference. Bear in mind that the wedding ceremony in each culture could be different.

Positions on Morning/Marriage contract ceremony.

Morning ceremony consisting of suit & jacket fitting, tutup waring and temon processions. During these processions

General Tradition

The positions of the bride & groom: The Bride on the right and the Groom on the left.

Bridegroom parents’ position: The Father on the right and the Mother on the left.

Chinese/Tionghoa Tradition:

The positions of the bride & groom: The Groom on the right and the Bride on the left.

Bridegroom parents’ position: The Father on the left and the Mother on the right.

The positions stated above, especially the bridegroom’s position, are the positions where both bride & groom hasn’t considered officially as husband & wife.  After the blessings ceremony, the postions will be reversed.

Blessings Ceremony Procession.

General Tradition

The positions of the bride & groom: The Groom on the right and the Bride on the left.

Bridegroom parents’ position: The Father on the right and the Mother on the left.

Chinese/Tionghoa Tradition:

The positions of the bride & groom: The Groom on the right and the Bride on the left.

Bridegroom parents’ position: The Father on the left and the Mother on the right.

The positions during and after the ceremony are when the bridegroom has officially been married through religious official.

Civil Registration

For the Civil registration record (marriage contract ceremony), there is a recommended position by wedding organizers which could assist the additional officials of the ceremony i.e Photo & videography vendors in taking pictures/videos on the Civil registration record moments.

On this procession, the signing of the civil registration marriage record books are done on the table prepared by the wedding organizer. Due to my drawing skills which on the same level as a kindergarten students, let’s use our imagination a little to visualize its position.

Imagine a rectangular table, of course, with 4 sides and we could view it from above in 2D. Let’s name the 4 sides as A, B, C and D sides. (In drawing, those sides are positioned clockwise)

A side: with 2 chairs, reserved for the 2 officials of Registry Office.

B side: with 2 chairs, for the 2 witnesses of marriage contract ceremony.

C side: with 6 chairs, for the bride & groom, 4 for the parents of the bride & groom.

D side: The side for the camera crews.

For the A and B sides, free positions, no left & right ruling.

For the C side, the positions are as follows from the right: The Groom’s father & mother, The Groom, The Bride, The Bride’s mother & father.

Hopefully it’s clear enough… hihihi… I’ll try to upload the pics ASAP.

Wedding Reception Ceremony

During the ceremony (Bridegroom’ parents)

From the entrance side, Bridegroom Parents position: Groom’s Father& Mother, Bride’s Mother& Father.

Viewed from the front, this position symbolizes the 2 fathers are protecting the mothers inside the line.

This order usually followed by the family’s representatives of 2 -4 people. This works when the parents come inside the building for the wedding reception process, the ushers & usherettes may replace them to welcome the guests.

On the Stage.

Now, for the on stage “act”, lemme share an experience from my days as a WO hehehe… It was a wedding with Chinese/Tionghoan tradition.

The order from the left was : The Groom’s Father & Mother, The Bride, The Groom, The Bride’s Mother & Father.

During the closing ceremony (home handshake).

The position for the “goodbye handshake” procession to the guests explained from the exit:

General tradition: Groom’s father & mother, The Bride, The Groom, The Bride’s mother & father.

Chinese/Tionghoan Tradition: The Bride’s father & mother, The Groom, The Bride, The Groom’s mother & father.

As always, me and my crew wish y’all Happy Wedding 😀

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